Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

          ‘’ We are unique individuals with unique experience’’

                                                                                                          ~ John Gray

                                                                                Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

I read this book a year ago. It’s worth reading work...Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a brilliant and one of the most talked about book. This book is written by John Gray, an American author and relationship counselor, and is released in 1992. Gray, is a prominent, internationally recognized figure due to his expertise in fields of relationship and communication. His main focus and subject is always been men and women.

                  In this book, Gray assists men and women in understanding each other, acknowledging each other’s perspective, respecting and appreciating their differences. He throws light on most trivial issues that occur in relationship between men and women. He begins the book by a preparatory chapter and mentions an incident from his life. In the very first chapter, he elucidates men and women by using metaphors of planets for them. He explains that men and women are from two different planet- Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus and due to this they have different way of thinking, ideas, habits and customs. So, they cannot be on same page.

                This book explains how both sexes can be understood, and how they reciprocate to stress and distinct exasperate situations. The difference in approach of men and women, reacting to stress is one of the major concepts of this book. He states that, when men are stressed or are in a stressful circumstance, they withdraw themselves from the world temporarily and enter in their ‘CAVE’ (writes Gray) to give themselves sometime and to sort the matter out. And that’s hard for women to understand. Women want them to talk to them and share their woes; Gray says that, this act of women piss men off and becomes a cause of conflict between them. Women deal with stress differently, Gray states, they love to talk about their worries, they want their partner to support them and to listen them carefully. Gray explain how contradictory perception of these two sexes cause conflict. Then he discusses how to avoid arguments, how to motivate each other, how to communicate each other’s feelings and how to keep love alive.

‘’ He has no idea that by just listening with empathy and interest he can be supportive. He does not know that on Venus talking about problems is not an invitation to offer a solution.’’

                                                                                                                                              (From text)

                

               Overall, it is a wonderful book with a very trivial and prudent subject. The examples given, depict about understanding the mind of opposite sex. It caters a realistic and testified passage for men and women to boost their conversations by acknowledging the contrast in their needs, desire, habits and behaviors. Its insight can assist you to strengthen and nurture relationship with the opposite sex. It has great tips and shows how to eradicate frustration disappointment in relationships. It has all the elements to rear a successful relation and affiliation. It has different scenarios from daily life and is shown from both the men’s and women’s point of view.

‘’To love someone is to acknowledge the goodness of who they are. Though loving a person we awaken their awareness of their own innate goodness. It is as though they cannot know how worthy they are until they look into the mirror of our love and see themselves.’’

                                                                                                                                            ~John Gray

                It is an entertaining book and will, for sure change your perception about many things. I would recommend this to everyone, whether you are a boy or a girl, single or in relation, married or divorced, this book is indeed a handy guide to understand opposite sex, especially those who find it hard to keep relationship because of misinterpreting their partner. It can absolutely aid to create a great perspective on both sexes.

‘’When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.’’

                                                                                                                                              (From text)

 Welcome nice things from this book, and ignore the stuff that clashes with your perception and thinking. Think positive and ‘Think A Little More’.